Polyvagal theory emphasises the importance of feeling safe and connected in our interactions with others.
When we feel safe and connected, our body activates the social engagement system, which helps us build relationships and navigate the world more effectively. When we feel unsafe our body triggers our adapted survival states either the fight or flight mode or shutdown.
Polyvagal theory posits that these three different states operate in a hierarchy
Safe and Social
This is when you feel safe and connected to others. Your body is calm, and you're able to engage socially with ease. It's like feeling comfortable and relaxed in the presence of friends or loved ones.
Fight or Flight
When your body perceives a threat or danger, your nervous system can trigger the fight or flight response. This is your body's way of preparing to either confront the threat or run away from it. You might feel anxious, your heart might race, and you might feel the urge to escape or defend yourself.
Freeze or Shutdown
If a situation feels overwhelming or too dangerous, your body might go into a freeze or shutdown mode. It's like feeling overwhelmed or unable to respond to a situation. This can happen when your body perceives that neither fighting nor fleeing is possible.
Understanding Polyvagal theory can help us recognise our body's responses to different situations and learn strategies to regulate our nervous system, promoting a sense of safety and connection in our lives. It is only through feeling safe that we can thrive in our wellbeing, relationships and performance.